It is indeed frustrating.
However, I would like to comment on a couple of your thoughts.
Keep in mind that one of the purposes of a quarantine is to prevent asymptomatic patients from spreading the virus before they have symptoms. Another is to have access to a patient early on in the course of the disease, when an antiviral has a chance of helping recovery. The quarantine won't make it disappear, but will help manage cases of individuals, and reduce the chances of "super-spreaders" infecting a large number of people.
It's not "all-or -nothin" but, rather, an accumulation of partial successes that can reduce the transmission rates.
<<"and as far as a mask goes, have you seen what they have to wear in a
hospital room with a positive patient?? An over the ear mask is not
going to protect you from this.">>
Again, it is not a simple "all-or -nothing. Hospital garb has to protect against a sudden very massive dose of virus. Actually, many doses.
BVut, any mask will reduce the projection distance of aerosols from people speaking. And, if they catch a portion of incoming, they an reduce the size of a massive single exposure ." Enough reduction means that a smaller quantity of virus has to be dealt with (killed) by the primary stages of the general immune reaction, and can also activate a bunch of specific antibodies over a week or so, once the immune response for the specific infection has been triggered. In fact, it is quite likely that there is enough of the virus around these days that we are all getting small doses that can be managed by the general-purpose immune response.
I have N-95 masks left from protection against dusts during carpentry. I use the because they are highly effective aginst incoming. However, incoming virus gets coated on the outer surface, and takes days to die. So, my masks sit in the sun when not in use.
Sunlight ( particularly UV light) and heat will deactivate the virus. Industrial scale renewal for masks uses hydrogen peroxide in special chambers.
<<"Also the hand washing is excellent. But this is a virus. Not something anti bacterial is going to touch.">>
I think that you have not grasped the chemistry here. The virus, simplistically, is a bunch of RNA (RiboNucleic Acids-which have a complex chemical and somewhat fragile chemical structure) wrapped in a protective layer of lipids ( fats). The general chemical structure of soap is quite similar to that lipid structure. In fact, the simplest soaps are made from fats like lard and tallow, or vegetable oils.That means that soaps can absorb or dissolve the lipids. (Oils and water don't mix, but oil and oil ( fat and fat) (soap and fat)do mix.
When you wash your hands with soap, especially warm water and soap, the soap cleans off the lipids from the virus particles, and the more fragile RNA which is expose then is disrupted. And, without the protective lipid layer, it quickly "dies."
So, soap is actually a virus killer in this case.
Alcohols like ethyl alcohol and iso-propyl alcohol can dissolve the lipid protective layer quickly, too.
Bacteria have much more complex structures...the are very much larger, have cell walls, etc. Soap can wash them off, but is not really a bacteria killer, in general. That is why chemicals that can penetrate the cell walls are added to "anti-bacterial" soaps. Some of the antibacterials, a type commonly called "quats" are somewhat similar to soaps in chemical structure, and are also effective against this type of virus, for the same reasons that soaps are.
Washing your hands with hot soapy water, or with ethyl or iso-propyly alcohol actually kills the COVID-19 virus. Soaps generally don't kill bacteria so easily. Alcohols can penetrate the cell walls and so can be effective against bacteria.
I'm trained in organic and biochemistry, so I speak with some technical knowledge of the subject.